When the Buddha returned to his son after 9 years of searching, he gave his 7 year old son Rahula one lecture, it was a big lecture but I’m going to summarize it in two paragraphs:
A) Never tell a lie. Anyone who can tell you the slightest of lies is also capable of any evil. We’ve seen this repeatedly in the financial world.
B) For every physical, verbal, emotional, and mental action you take, FOCUS before, during, and after to make sure nobody is getting hurt.
That’s it. Beautiful. Its all you need to live a good life.
Lets Talk about A More: WHAT WILL HONESTY GET YOU?
#1: PEOPLE MIGHT STOP SPEAKING TO YOU
Forget personal branding. Start to dip your toes into personal honesty. Let me tell you what will happen. Your “friends, family” might stop speaking to you.
I have experienced this not just from myself but all of the people I consider “honest”. Some of your friends, some of your colleagues will avoid you, some investors will shun you. Your personal “network” will transform and shift.
My own personal motto is: honesty to a point. I will never harm anyone. I believe in what Buddha said to his son Rahula the day after he showed up after abandoning his son for 7 years:
Before, during, and even AFTER you say something, make sure it doesn’t hurt anyone.
#2 PEOPLE WILL THINK YOU ARE GOING CRAZY
The next thing that will happen is people will ask “are you going crazy?” because honesty can be abrasive, honesty can force others to wake up and that can be threatening, so they will call you mad.
Then people might send emails to your friends, “is he as crazy as he sounds?” And that’s how I make friends now because introductions will be made and people will have to find out for themselves.
#3 PEOPLE WILL GET FRIGHTENED
So they will call you names. Oh, that guy is just trying to be a “contrarian”, for instance. Or an “idiot”. Or worse. I’ve been called everything.
They need to understand why you are telling the truth. Why you are being honest about what you really think. In meetings at the office everyone is quiet. You’re not supposed to speak up. But you will.
#4 PEOPLE WILL FIND YOU ENTERTAINING
People will come back to you and gravitate towards you. Because you’re entertaining – if 20000 people are lying and only 1 person is telling the truth then that 1 person is going to stand taller than anyone. At first people will come back to you for voyeuristic reasons. Why? Because they know if they watch Real Housewives they aren’t watching anything “Real” and they aren’t watching “Housewives”. But you’re real. So they want to know what you’ll do next.
#5 PEOPLE WILL TRUST YOUR ADVICE
People will also come back for advice. Not always because they agree with you. But because they know the advice is coming from the heart and not because there is anything for sale. It’s like Google can’t cure anything. But they can direct you to all the people who can. So you go back to Google because you might not always find what you want but at least you know they are trying hard to direct you to the right place.
We’ve all hidden our failures in dark comets orbiting the peripheral edges of the solar system, where the sun is dark and faded. But when someone brings their orbit close to the sun we want to land there for a brief moment and see if actual living conditions exist. And if so, then maybe a small settlement can be formed, advice can be asked, a failure can be related to, a friendship can be formed.
#6 YOU BECOME FREE
At first we hug our boundaries in chains. We think “if we tell the boy/girl we like them, they might not like me back”. We think, “If I say I like this candidate, my friends might hate me.” If I say X, everyone else might say Y. And so on. But more and more we start to feel where those boundaries are and we push them out. We push them further and further away from ourselves. Until finally they are so far away it’s as if they don’t exist at all. We create the imprint on the world instead of them creating it on us. You don’t need money for that. Or a big house. Or a fancy degree or car. Every day, just push out those boundaries a little further.
We reach for that freedom, and eventually, the boundaries are so far away we begin to feel the pleasures of true freedom.
And it feels good. Real good.
What has honesty gotten you? Please share your thoughts with us in the comment section below or via facebook…