Stop the fighting & Simply say Yes!
Giving up isn’t always a bad thing. Especially if what we are holding on to is not serving us, not freeing us, not allowing us to live fully. This conditioning we are so attached to, these limiting thoughts and needs hold us back; giving them up will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.
Give up your need to always be right.
“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” – Wayne Dyer.
What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big? It’s just not worth it.
Give up your need for control.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”- Lao Tzu
We have mastered something when we can allow it to just BE. When we can simply give it away. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
Give up on blame.
Start taking responsibility for your own life. No longer allow yourself to be a Victim of circumstance. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Your words can easily be your downfall.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” – Eckhart Tolle
How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – a thought is just a thought – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
Give up your limiting beliefs.
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” – Elly Roselle
Restrictions about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
Give up complaining.
Seriously. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. You are in control. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
Give up criticism and judgement.
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
Give up your need to impress others.
“Be uglier” is the greatest acting note I ever received. I spent so many years wanting to be the life of the party, causing my own suffering when sometimes all I wanted to do was be along and make no one laugh, not even myself. When we become honest with who we are, what we need, we will lose “friends” and gain true companions. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
Give up your resistance to change.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” –Joseph Campbell
Change is the only thing we can count on. Nothing will ever remain the same. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
Give up labels once and for all.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” – Wayne Dyer
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. A mind only work when open. Do yourself a favor and erase words and the ideas & images attached to them, words like success, wealth, poor, money, weak, wrong, right, can’t, wont, but, luck, power… “Is a rose a rose by any other name” – William Shakespeare
Give up on your fears
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. When you think on the thing you fear, you are really manifesting it into the world.
Give up your excuses.
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
Give up the past.
Why do we insist on carrying a u-haul of the past with us everywhere we go!? I know, it’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
Give up attachment
This is one of the keys to enlightenment in Buddhism and is often hard to grasp, but it is not impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. All you have to do is begin to observe in every moment the many thoughts, objects, expectations, day dreams that we constantly attached to. A To-do list that bring us suffering, effect our happiness when they aren’t complete. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear that there isn’t enough, I guarantee you there is more than enough; while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.
You are yourself. 7 billion people in this world and your fingerprint is like none of them, you are unique, your cells vibrate on your frequency. If you were a radio station would you play another stations music? Play your own music. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need…. and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore.
Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace the change… By simply reading this you are changing, on a cellular level. It’s not about forgetting, it’s about remembering, what our cells have always known- deep down – what our ancestors knew – born from the sun and stars we are meant to shine, bright!