Think of something you’re trying to change about yourself, are you coming from a place of acceptance or rejection?
I repeat, nothing is wrong with you.
The Personal Growth and Wellness Industries are Full of Shit
A whole industry of coaching, websites, books, e-books, documentaries, $20 smoothies (this is not a joke, these are real -Erewhon) and coffee’s full of fat and monk tears that sell us a thousand different ways to help us change. Because we need changing. Most of them play on our self-rejection, marketing to the parts of ourselves that we disown while laying out a supposed plan to overcome them.
Their common theme is the essence of how “I am wrong and not not enough.” “I must change,” so here is a step-by-step plan that skips over the most important part: honesty and self-acceptance.
Which is understandable. Their creators play by the same rules we do; lie about who you actually are, perform the song and dance that you have it all under control.
Even programs focused on self-love and acceptance rarely have the courage to acknowledge self love and acceptance, or I wouldn’t pay so much, b/c I already have and live with the disowned parts of myself. We might talk of them but then off we go into a fantasized world of desire and vision, losing touch with who we are right now.
And that’s the rub; real change occurs when we acknowledge and stick with who we are moment by moment, when we tell the truth about our experience, and recognize that self-rejection does not support growth.
And maybe I end up realizing, I’m pretty okay as I am, at least as okay as the experts hawking their wares at the self-improvement bazaar.
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