Welcome to love.
First of all, it’s not all about you. So, good, we got that out the way.
Second, you will never be the smartest, funniest, richest, charming, best dancing coolest person around. That’s not your job. Your lover can always find someone with more of one or multiple things. Again, not your job.
The only thing that your lover won’t ever find someone better at, is being you. This is your job. You will always be the very best you that anyone can be. Trust that.
Trust that your worth isn’t dependent on any of your attributes. Trust that you don’t need anything external to validate you. You are worthy of love, just because you are alive.
Three, it’s not all about you.
If you love someone, you are happy that they are laughing, even when it isn’t your joke.
If you love someone, you are happy when they get honored and complimented and validated, even if it isn’t your tongue.
If you love someone, you want them to be abundant and rich and joyous, even if isn’t just with you and by your hands.
If you love someone and want them fulfilled and satisfied, you love them knowing you need help; you love them with gratitude that the world is helping to keep your partner joyous and full.
This is how to love others without possession.
If this sounds like a goal, and you are prepared to meet your shadows and jealousy and envy and demons with love and forgiveness.
Then welcome to love.
If not, I’ll see you.
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